Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
When your partner criticises you, what happens inside? For some people, the body wants to shrink, go quiet, or disappear. For others, there’s an immediate surge of defensiveness or counter-attack. Both responses are protective. They developed for a reason. And …
Before we rush into goals, plans, or reinvention, there’s real value in pausing to reflect on the year we’ve just lived. Reflection helps us integrate what mattered, what changed us, and what we’re ready to carry forward — rather than …
The mind is one of the most powerful forces we carry. It can open doors or close them. It can expand our world or shrink it down to what feels familiar and safe. For many of us, the mind became …
There comes a time in every healing journey when you realise that you can’t move forward without working with your mind. We live in a culture that worships the mind, a mind that is often crowded, overwhelmed, and running old …
This is the moment in our wedding when the ring wouldn’t go over my knuckle. My husband didn’t want to push too hard and hurt me. I knew it wasn’t hurting at all. He twisted it, tried to be gentle, …
You heal from toxic connections by forming healthy ones. Every safe, attuned relationship teaches your nervous system that connection can feel calm, consistent, and safe — not chaotic or unpredictable. This is how new patterns begin. Each positive connection becomes …
“When trauma gets triggered you don’t act your age, you act the age the wound was created.” — Gabor Maté When a trauma wound is activated, your system does not respond from your present-day self. It responds from the age …
Most people think healing is about “moving on.” But the real transformation happens when the brain updates the emotional meaning of an old memory. This is memory reconsolidation. Memory reconsolidation is the process where an old emotional learning becomes activated, …
Healing is not only psychological. It is neurological. Memory reconsolidation is the process your brain uses to update old emotional learning so that your triggers lose their grip and your system begins to feel safer from the inside out. Memory …
Trauma can leave you believing you have to tolerate poor treatment because losing someone feels more dangerous than staying. Healing is the slow, steady realisation that your wellbeing matters too. You begin to see that the real loss is abandoning …