Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
Connection matters more than being right—focus on listening, not winning. Love, Jen
Power dynamics are an invisible force shaping every relationship. They determine who speaks up, who stays silent, and whose needs are prioritized. Unhealthy power dynamics can show up as one partner consistently having more control—whether it’s emotional, financial, or decision-making …
Attachment patterns are patterns of love. They ask if we can trust others to love us in the way we need. If you want to know more, check out my highlight ‘ATTACHMENT’. Love, Jen
Healing insecure attachment is a journey, but it’s possible with support. So much love on your healing journey, Jen
Childhood trauma is often misunderstood. It’s not just about big, obvious events—it’s also about other ways you may not have felt safe or valued. For example, growing up in an environment where you had to suppress your feelings to …
Childhood trauma isn’t just about “big events.” It can be subtle, like being emotionally ignored or having to grow up too quickly. Trauma isn’t the event itself—it’s how your body and mind process it and the support you have around …
A little reminder for today. Notice just one thing you are proud of about yourself. Give yourself a metaphorical pat on the back. Hold on to it all day. You got this. Love, Jen
Rather than setting specific goals for the year, I prefer to align with a value or energy. Sometimes, this energy is lacking, and I would like more. Other times, the word jumps off the page, and I’m unsure how that …